Don't let anyone threaten or intimidate you because you are showing them that you are scared. Don't let words bring you down. I know you are strong and brave, so show them who you really are. Instead of listening to people say "You are worthless and useless", remember you are strong and brave. Let's stop gender-based violence today!
Wathinta abafazi, wathinta imbokodo - "You strike a woman, you strike a rock".
There will be very painful moments in your life that will change your entire world in a matter of minutes. These moments will change you. Let them make you stronger, smarter and kinder, but don't become someone that you're not. Cry, scream if you have to. Then straighten your crown and keep moving.
Make-up can hide teary eyes, but not broken bones. Normal women use make-up to enhance their beauty, while we 'the abused' use it to cover up someone else's betrayal. Your face is not his canvas to paint, but to praise. You can only be admired by someone who is able to see and not one that is blinded by rage. No one says it's going to be easy, but its easier crying tears of joy than those of sorrow.
Cry it out women, for one day you'll laugh it out. Strength is higher and lives in smiles.
My message is not about me and my abuse story. I need a light to be shed on men that are being abused by their female partners. They feel emasculated and it is as if no one will believe them. I'm on the verge of losing someone very close to me because he sees no way out of his abusive home. His partner plays the victim.
I was abused for 5 years and this is why I know he is telling the truth. All I want to do is help. I'm desperate because he wants to take his life and she just keeps threatening to kill him. I wish he knew that there is a way out, that he isn't alone and that he will heal from this.
I am a woman, a fighter, a go-getter. I got all my strength through verbal and emotional abuse I suffered during my childhood. I was raised by a stepfather who was abusive to mum and me, and this affected me. I am a voice of the voiceless. As a Mrs Universe South Africa Semi Finalist 2020, I say, "It's never too late! Wake up, forget the past no matter how painful it is. You can't dwell on it for the rest of your life.
Don't drag it into your good future. Instead use it as a platform to take you to another level. Be vigilant not to fall into the same abusive trap again." Maya Angelou said, "If you learn; teach, if you get; give." Share your sad story to inspire others and work towards bettering yourself. Your pain and suffering are like Jesus's stripes, like the persecution that lead to His crucifixion. After all He suffered, He rose up, more powerful than before. The same goes for you; wake up and stand up for yourself.
Always believe in yourself. You deserve better if you believe it.
Together we can fight to overcome the things we once thought we couldn't. Let's break the silence. Just know that you're worthy and beautiful.
Break the silence of abuse, speak out.
There is no excuse for being abused, he is just an abuser, stand up, gather strength and come out about it in order to get help. You are a victim but don't need to stay one!
Being abused as a child and going through the same by my life partner, has made me stronger and more determined to succeed and get educated. Today I can use my life to motivate and inspire youth to rise above issues and hardships, that attempt to cripple them. Every woman must use her voice to rise up, triumph over challenges and help educate our young women!
You are the true storyteller and saviour of your life. You are the only person who can change your current situation. Help yourself, so that other people can get help through your story. Open up to help yourself and in turn, help our nation.
Empower other women by sharing your pain and overcome situations by staying strong in faith.
It was never your fault! You are a smart and gorgeous woman, with more strength in you than you know. You can get through this!
I won't victimise myself for your selfish desires. I still have a purpose and feel these scars are a sign of my strength to survive. I will leave them as tattoos indicating my boldness. I have forgiven you, not that you deserve it, but needing to do it for my healing process and self-fulfillment.
With God by our side, nothing is impossible.
Yesterday I dared to struggle, but today I dare to win. You only fail when you stop trying. Stand up, speak up and make a difference. End the silence!
You are not a victim of your circumstance. You will rise above this.
You are not a victim, you are Gods treasure and masterpiece and no one should take that away from you.
You are worthy and deserve better, become the victor against domestic violence.
One of my healing process was finding my confidence because being abused did not mean I‘ve got a disease or I‘m less of a person. So I will not let my circumstances define me.
Woman you have been hurt, you‘ve been disrespected and now probably too numb to even act out. I want to remind you that in your capacity you‘re both beautiful and great. You are the future so don‘t allow the unkind acts of another human being make you lose your voice or your spark.
After going through an abusive childhood, I CLAIM back my power. NOBODY will take it away from me. WE as the STRONG WOMEN have ARRIVED. WE will fight you tooth and nail and not allow ourselves to become victims in our society that is suppose to protect us. MOTHERS, DAUGHTERS, GRAND-DAUGHTERS, AUNTS, NIECES we are WARRIORS.
Have strength but don’t be hardened. Your feminine gentleness and compassion is also your feminine fierceness that has the power to bring peace through support of fellow womxn and children . #RiseAbove
I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become. I am a SURVIVOR!
Your struggle right now will become a testimony, you can use it to inspire other people. And believe me, there are others who will need to hear your story and it will have a powerful effect on them. This is your story, your life. Make it count. Don‘t give up, you are precious. Be blessed.
It is okay to breakdown, to loose control, to be lost...there is no shame in fully being immersed in the pain. The best way out is through it all, get familiar with those feelings so that you will never allow yourself to go back there so that you find strength and never fear the cause of the pain. From there you will be able to recognize anything or anyone that wants to take you back to that darkness, you’ll stand and in a confrontational way say, “I see you! Stop right there, not today, not ever.
You‘re not stupid, weak or unlovable. You‘re none of the things he says you are. He‘s the coward; you‘re the heroine of this story. Leave. Take the children. Never look back. There is real help out there. Don‘t be afraid. You are the real warrior in this story.
Healing takes time, so take those baby steps towards being you again. And remember you can‘t go through this alone so seek help. Better days are coming stay positive.
For every wound there is a scar. And every scar tells a story. A story that says:" I SURVIVED". You are a survivor!
You can recognize survivors of abuse by their courage. When silence is so very inviting, they step forward and share their truth so others know they aren’t alone.
Don’t judge yourself for what others did to you.
Instead of saying “I’m damaged, I’m broken, I have trust issues”, say “I’m healing, I’m rediscovering myself, I’m starting over.”
Empowered women empower women.
Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher.
Be bold enough to use your voice and brave enough to listen to your heart.
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